|Transformation for the Second Chakra – Love Beyond Dependency
Level Two – Conscious Relating
Love and relationship is a major part of life. How to share life with another person in a fulfilling way for both people can be described as an
art or as a challenge. However it is greatly helpful to gain an understanding of certain laws of how relationships function. It is commonly
thought that we need only to fall in love with ‘the right person’ and all else will happen naturally. It may sound strange, but there really are
laws of love. But they are natural laws, which once we learn them can guide us into having a more conscious relating, as if we have learned
great secrets about love.
This seminar is based on “Ten Secrets of Conscious Relating” which will be taught in detail, with exercises for practicing them.
These laws of relationships apply to all our important relationships, although we will focus on love and marriage relationships,
these new ways of conscious relating also can be applied to other relationships with our family and friends.
Relationship problems are common because we:
Take the other person for granted
Expect too much from the other
Blame the other
Compromise in order to make superficial harmony
Do not know to communicate in a way the other can understand
Have lost trust
All these problems come from focusing too much on the other person, in the early stages of relationship that external focus feels good and
positive. But in later stages of relationship that focus becomes bitter. If the problem is excessive external focus, it does not mean egoism is
the solution. But that conscious relating is the connection between two independent people, who both know themselves, and find that a loving
relationship is a supportive way to live life. Then the other person is not a distraction or a disturbance,
but a life partner with whom we can grow together.
Conscious Relating offers new ways such as:
Respecting each other
Perceiving the other as a mirror
Finding a true harmony
Honest, open and clear communication
Trusting the energy of love
Lovers as conscious people become mirrors to each other. One of the greatest benefits of a deep relationship is that both people know each
other intimately and entirely in both positive and negative aspects, and if we can accept each others faults and understand each other,
then our relationship partner becomes our best friend and best support.
To understand relationship we need to understand our own relationship pattern. During the seminar, we will be examining how we formed
relationship, dependency and attachment patterns as part of our childhood conditioning. Psychological theories about relationship patterns
will help our understanding. We will also be practicing meditations to encourage our conscious to grow.
Everyone is welcome to join this workshop, whether currently in a relationship or single. Couples are welcome to join this workshop together,
if both partners are willing, it will provide the opportunity to renew their relationship.
Love needs the greatest awareness. Unconscious, asleep, snoring, you cannot love. Your love is more like hate than like love that's why your love can
go sour in a single minute. Your love becomes jealousy any moment. Your love can become hatred any moment. Your love is not love enough. Your
love is more like a hiding place, not an open sky. It is more a need, not like an independent flow. More like dependence -- and all dependencies are
ugly. Real love makes you free, gives you total freedom. It is unconditional. It asks for nothing. It simply gives and shares, and it is happy because the
sharing was possible. It is thankful because you accepted.
Osho - Yoga: The Alpha and the Omega, Vol. 7 #8