AWAKENED PARENTING – a Training for Parents

How to be a good parent? This is a vital question for everyone who already is, or is planning to be a parent. When we decide to become a
parent, are we fully ready to welcome a new life in to this world? To love, care, protect, provide, guide and educate our child for at least
the next eighteen years? And to do so unconditionally and respectfully?

The focus of this psychological seminar is to prepare those who want to be a parent; and for those who already are parents and now
want to raise their children with greater positive qualities. To be an ‘Awakened Parent’ is one who will raise the child as a part of their
own personal development, and with the new values of awakening that are needed for the new humanity.

The Awakened Parent will be as conscious and as loving as possible to their child. They will strive to offer their child unconditional love.
Whereas many of us experienced our own parents gave us their love based upon their conditions.
Conditional love is to give attention, love and care to the child only if they fulfil the expectations of what a parent considers to be good
behaviour. The most basic strategy often used is reward and punishment. It is classical conditioning. It is the same way that people train
their pet dog!

Unconditional love means to give attention, love and care to the child even if they do not fulfil our expectations. That is only possible if
we respect our children as unique and free individuals that do not belong to us. The most fundamental mistake of unconscious parenting
it to consider that this is my child “my daughter, my son, my child, my flesh and blood.” That attitude is reducing the child to a level of
material possession and ownership. An Awakened Parent will have the attitude of being a guardian and a guide to the child, who as a
free spirit chose to come to live in a nest that we provide for them. They are a guest and we are the host.     

However, being an extremely loving parent can be another mistake. Some of us may have had parents that loved us too much, that
watched over every detail of our life as we were growing up. Excessive love, or smother love, suffocates children who then cannot
discover their own individuality. Just as the sapling cannot grow under the shadow of a huge parent tree – it needs a little distance to
find its own roots, its own sunlight to grow up towards.

Yet another common parental mistake that some others of us experienced in our childhood was insufficient love, or even deliberate
rejection and abandonment. So many children are abandoned or given away to other relatives or even to neighbours or strangers.
Sometimes the parents had no other choice, the situation of the society at that time meant it was the only way the children could survive.
However, the subconscious of a child may not understand that the abandonment was unavoidable and they might carry a psychological
wound inside them into adulthood.

Parents can make so many mistakes in raising children, but we do not need to blame our parents for the wrong things they did to us. We
can, however, learn from their mistakes and choose to raise our own children as consciously as we can. To be an Awakened Parent we
will first try to heal our own emotional and psychological wounds that we got in our own childhood, to not replicate those wounds as
we raise our own children, and to be guided by new principals of parenting according to Awakening Psychology:

1. Respect children as free individuals
2. Offer love, care and attention without conditions
3. Provide balanced parenting that is neither too strict nor too loose
4. Guide children to learn according to their own interests and abilities
5. Provide a home environment that is as safe and as prosperous as possible
6. To grow together: parents and children as companions on a journey of consciousness development
      7. To let our children teach us how to be a better parent and a more conscious human

This seminar is one of a series offered by The International Academy for Awakening Psychology dedicated to childhood healing through
Developmental Psychotherapies.